using your heart to listen to others'
"There was this dad who saved for a very long time before spending all his savings on a new car. His car was very precious to him, so much that he washed and waxed it everyday, together with his 5 year old son. There was this day when his son wanted to wash the car, but he couldn't find the cloth. He decided to use the wire gauze that his mom always uses to wash the wok, as it would be very clean after the washing. He scrubbed the car with the wire gauze as hard as he can, doing what his mom always do to the wok, to clean the wok as thorough as possible. After washing away the soap and suds, to his horror.. the whole car was full of scratches. He was so scared, and was crying as he went to apologize to his dad. And his dad was shocked when he saw what had happened to his car. His next reaction was to do what all parents would do, to scold the child. But an inner voice stopped him, telling him that.. everybody always judges on the surface, instead of the intentions. So, he just scooped up the crying child and held him in his arms and said ' Thank you for washing the car. I love you more than i love the car. ' "
----- a short story quoted from the below article.
wEn wrote this in her blog.. "If love hurts, why do people love?" ... I commented.. .. love hurts easily when it begins to matter a lot.. and.. i think this is a stage which most people would like to reach...
How many people like to take gambles on relationships? They either put in minimal effort or maximum effort into them and hope for the best... Does the effort justify the relationships? If they don't know what's the best, would they be contented with what they have?
There would be some who would do more thinking before getting into relationships, so that they can be sure that they're getting what they want... Are they really sure of what they want? What kind of thinking would they have? ( e.g. Are we physically compatible?, or is that person who i want to be with the rest of my life?, or can i stand him?, or i don't believe that we can't work out, so maybe i should try?, or do we like each other of the same amount?, or it's not very good to reject that person?, or i have to decide soon because that person is getting impatient?, etc...)
Anyway, i don't have anything against these 2 ways.
5 comments:
i juz wana share this. no matter hw much thinking one does b4 getting into a rlshp, its pretty useless. becos u will nv be able to fortell the ans to ur qns; wad u r gg to get from e rlshp.
Once the status is changed, the ppl’s character, attitude changes too. E xiang1 chu3 tgt will be near shiny new. U will hv to know him/her all over again.
Ppl will nv know if wat they r getting is e best, they can only try to make it e best. I can only say, quoting from e writer's title, using ur hear to listen to - yourself. as long as gan jue dui. why not. im not saying to blindly go into a rlshp. yes must consider (eg. his character, if he is a bad egg) n not crack ur head apart w qns about the rlshp.
Last thing, wen u can feel hurt in a rlshp, it is real.
it's a v good story, and i am absorbing what you and "anonymous" said.
thanks for sharing.
to anonymous: ... i don't think it applies for every relationship.. as in for the part where u said everything will change once the status changes.. It will depend on how open both parties are to each other.. i think there are some times when people try to be a better person b4 they get together with anyone, to try to be a better person or maybe just so that the other person will like her/him even more.. but they might not be able to maintain that or they don't want to spend effort on maintaining after they get together...
and... i think a lot of us will tend to forget that, when we're in a relationship, the most important thing is that both parties are happy.. and it is not necessary that they have to do their best for everything.. they just have to be contented with each other.. with what they have.. it's nice to have targets or things to look forward to.. but we mustn't look focus on what's more important..
ok i understand ur first para, prince. n i like ur 2nd para. its like the model ans to rlshp probs. haha.. and.. i see where we are getting from. you r e emotional type, i m well, too practical?? maybes =p anws, thanks for ur reply. i will try to rmb that.
prince?? :s haha.. u're welcome...
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