friends

I'm sure friends will not hurt each other deliberately.. unless they don't really treat each other as friends.. If you're hurt by your friend's behavior or attitude, the situation will not get better if you do not let him/her know. You can just let your friends know how you really feel, and maybe they can let you know why they behave in that way. Purpose of doing this would be to let the other party know why you're hurt by what, and you'll know why the other party did what they do. (The 2 parties must really be truthful to each other and not hide any feelings or thinking from each other.) They might not have behaved the way you think they did. But if they did, maybe you could try to understand why they did it, and try to accept this behavior or maybe you 2 could come to a compromise, because i'm sure you'll want to be friends for a long time and it's no point for you tyo keep getting angry over the same thing. I think sometimes, we tend not to be mindful of how we're treating our friends, as in, we might be hurting our friends unknowingly. So, as friends, i think we should just let each other know if there's anything that each other had done to hurt the other, so issues can be rectified at that point of time. But at the same time.. we shouldn't be stingy with our genuine praises :p

... Why do friends like to hide things from each other? Is it because of the fear of being rejected for being different? (Friends should accept each other for who they are. Everybody is unique. Everyone has their good and bad points. Nobody is perfect.)Is it because of the fear of being seen as a bad person? (... Nobody likes to be seen as a bad person. But you should dare to admit what you think and do. You must accept yourself before others can accept you. If you're not a bad person, then you don't have to be afraid of rumours.)Is it the fear of being hurt by the people you open up to? (... This is a gamble. Friends shouldn't hurt each other.. But there are some who treat friends lightly. You have to be careful but you shouldn't be too paranoid. )Is it because of the laziness or maybe you find it troublesome to explain your behavior/thinking/actions to your friends? ( It's not that easy to be friends with someone, you got to put in effort into friendships.)

Ignorance is really bliss.... :s

miss understand

Different viewpoints + Different perception + expecting others to have the same perception or viewpoint + not letting others know what/how you think = misunderstanding

I don't like misunderstandings. And if there is any, i don't think anybody else could help, except for the people involved. Misunderstandings should be cleared up as soon as possible, as it's not very good to leave it unresolved, and the gap between the parties involved will be more difficult to fix. But, it's also better late than never. I think some people might have this misconception that if you leave the misunderstandings alone, it will clear up by itself... "misconception" is the keyword. Misunderstandings will not clear up by themselves...

"want" trashes "obligation" :o

This isn't my fingernail k.. :/ ly happened to have a few nails painted like that :o

It feels so strange opening up myself to new people, because i don't really do it all the time... :s

I don't like obligations... Are they similar to responsibilities? ... If it is, does that mean i dislike responsibilities? ... i think so :s





越难得到的东西，就越会珍惜。。。 不过。。。我们不应该为了那样，而忽略我们已经有的东西。

euthanasia

Euthanasia is the deliberate, intentional termination of a person's life for the benefit of that person.
Countries that legalise euthanasia have set conditions for it to be implemented. ( Singapore is not one of the countries.)For instance, they require patients who request euthanasia to be above a certain age, mentally sound, suffering from a terminal condition, suffering and most importantly, it has to be voluntary.

Palliative care is about improving the quality of life of patients with terminal illnesses such as end-stage cancer and advanced organ failure. It involves managing pain as well as the social, emotional and spiritual needs of the patient and his relatives. Good palliative care is said to reduce the desire for death to be brought about sooner.

Advanced Medical Directive (AMD) is a document that tells doctors that a person does not want his life to be artificially prolonged if he has a terminal illness and is unable to express his wishes. ( This is available in Singapore.)
Under the Advanced Medical Directive Act, an AMD can be executed only when a patient is certified with a terminal illness, needs extraordinary life-sustaining treatment and is incapable of making rational judgement. After the AMD has taken effect, a patient with terminal illness will still receive palliative care and treatment. Anyone aged above 21 years and above can make an AMD. It is a voluntary decision and nobody can make it on someone else's behalf. It can also be revoked. This Act is explicitly and categorically against euthanasia.

-- Definitions are taken from today's Sunday Times.

At first i was for euthanasia, as i didn't really think living longer might be a good solution. We might have done everything we wanted to do and we have nothing else that we want to do... :s ... Okay.. i think i want to take back my previous statement. I don't believe that most people would have done everything that they wanted to do before they die. For those who don't want to live longer, they must have gotten tired of living. Maybe we need to try to help them find a personal reason as to why they should have the will to keep living... Although euthanasia is a really easy and quick way out, as there will be less problems for the patients, the people close to them, the people taking care after them. But... I think i'm not in any position to judge since i'm not in any of their shoes.. :s ok... just sharing my two-cents worth.. or maybe less than that.. :/

using your heart to listen to others'

"There was this dad who saved for a very long time before spending all his savings on a new car. His car was very precious to him, so much that he washed and waxed it everyday, together with his 5 year old son. There was this day when his son wanted to wash the car, but he couldn't find the cloth. He decided to use the wire gauze that his mom always uses to wash the wok, as it would be very clean after the washing. He scrubbed the car with the wire gauze as hard as he can, doing what his mom always do to the wok, to clean the wok as thorough as possible. After washing away the soap and suds, to his horror.. the whole car was full of scratches. He was so scared, and was crying as he went to apologize to his dad. And his dad was shocked when he saw what had happened to his car. His next reaction was to do what all parents would do, to scold the child. But an inner voice stopped him, telling him that.. everybody always judges on the surface, instead of the intentions. So, he just scooped up the crying child and held him in his arms and said ' Thank you for washing the car. I love you more than i love the car. ' "
----- a short story quoted from the below article.


wEn wrote this in her blog.. "If love hurts, why do people love?" ... I commented.. .. love hurts easily when it begins to matter a lot.. and.. i think this is a stage which most people would like to reach...

How many people like to take gambles on relationships? They either put in minimal effort or maximum effort into them and hope for the best... Does the effort justify the relationships? If they don't know what's the best, would they be contented with what they have?
There would be some who would do more thinking before getting into relationships, so that they can be sure that they're getting what they want... Are they really sure of what they want? What kind of thinking would they have? ( e.g. Are we physically compatible?, or is that person who i want to be with the rest of my life?, or can i stand him?, or i don't believe that we can't work out, so maybe i should try?, or do we like each other of the same amount?, or it's not very good to reject that person?, or i have to decide soon because that person is getting impatient?, etc...)
Anyway, i don't have anything against these 2 ways.

affect effect

I'm affected by a few things that i think others are thinking of me ( not just on one matter..). ... Am i affected because what they say are wrong? Or am i affected because what they say are right? ... I think it's the latter because i'm feeling kind of guilty. I deserve to feel like this.. :s From now on, I shouldn't.. must not commit any mistakes that will lead me down to these paths again.. I'll really try... I'm sorry.

sorry

I'm very sorry toward those people whom i owe birthday presents, and especially to those who i've promised to give them theirs. I'll give them when i can.

good friend, friend good

I heard this from my friend and i think it should be the power quote of the month :o ... :p "It's easier to find a girlfriend/boyfriend than a good friend."

How many good friends do we have that's not the result of convenience (e.g. lazy to open up to others, thinking we have enough friends, or just because we always hang out with them, etc..)? I think a lot of us don't want to break out of our comfort zone to open up to other people. Maybe it's partly because we're afraid that the friendship might not workout, or we're afraid of rejections..

Definition of good friends ( to me at least ) : Those people whom you're always with, don't automatically qualify as your good friends. Good friends are those people who you'll open up to, and they'll also open up to you. There's no barriers and masks in between. Both parties will put in the effort to listen to each other, and put in the effort in the answers to each other.. ( I think this is the definition of how a normal friend should be.. dozens of years ago.. but given how the world is now...)

Do you want to try to be a good friend to someone new today? It's not really that difficult..

where's wally...

... I don't know whether am i right or wrong.. But, it seems to me that.. there's not a lot of good people in the world now. To me, good people are those who are not selfish-motive driven.. Maybe some people will say that i should face up to reality.. But this is really kinda sad...

put down your knife!

放下屠刀，立地成佛 = "Put down the killing knife, and become a Buddhist at once".

Since everything is transient and everything will come to an end on day, why hold on to anything? I think a lot of people will agree with buddhist teachings that everything (e.g. money, fame, life, love, etc..) is transient, but we just cannot let go of any of them :/ I used to think that i'm suitable to be a monk because i can let go of a lot of things. But, there's one thing which i can't. It is.... feelings. I can't imagine myself being devoid of feelings. And it's interlinked with the other things. So.. i can't become a monk... ... not that i'm looking forward to it la.. :p


mj's pencil case... :p haha..

itsy bitsy spider...

Oh what a tangled web we weave,

When first we practise to deceive!

Sir Walter Scott, Marmion, Canto vi. Stanza 17.
Scottish author & novelist (1771 - 1832)

I kinda like this angle of me in the photo above. :p

Anyway, there was this black widow crawling around Pei Sze's birthday prata party yesterday. But she wasn't really doing her her job last night as there were still mosquitoes flying around... Do black widows eat mosquitoes? ... I'm not sure... but here's a picture of her scuttling around..

Sorry, this was a picture of her trying to coax the dog into going home with her so she can eat it... :p haha..

matter anot

"There comes a point in your life when you realize who matters, who never did, who won't anymore, and who always will. So don't worry about people from your past, there's a reason why they didn't make it to your future."

--- taken off the application "Bumper Sticker" of Facebook.

lazy faker

There are pros and cons for everything in this world. I've realized that laziness does have its pros. Most people have this thinking that being lazy won't help you amount to anything in life. I think that this is quite true. But at the same time, i can come up with a few examples in which, being lazy has its own advantages.

• Lazy to take the early bus, and decided to take a cab instead. The bus met with an accident.
• Lazy to read through all the topics for the exam, so some topics were missed. In the end, no questions came out from those missed topics. So no effort was wasted.
• Lazy to keep in contact with some friends. It might be better this way as they don't really treat you as a real friend.

Although all these examples might be a bit silly and ridiculous, but i think it's kind of true... And, recently, i've found another example to prove my point. Laziness had actually made me a good person... :p I'm just being myself 99% of the time (i think there would be a few times when i really had to not be myself.) because i'm too lazy to put in any effort to fake anything, and i don't feel it's worth the effort to make myself a lot more better than i am. I'm a lazy truker.. :p I can't seem to think of a better term... :6

bbb

This string/rope which had been tied around the top of my BB... "beggar bag" (named by mj) to keep it closed for around 3 years, finally snapped yesterday. I was walking into the library when it happened and i was really stunned for a while because i thought this bag could at least accompany me till i graduate. I got my friend to tie a knot for me so that i can continue using this bag. Hengz.... :/


I went for the blood donation drive this afternoon. And i was quite proud of myself that i filled a bag of blood in around 5 minutes :p


"Light your own candle instead of cursing the darkness.." quoted by someone in this article of the home section of today's straits times.

ugly lies

lie: verb, lied, ly·ing.

–noun

1.	a false statement made with deliberate intent to deceive; an intentional untruth; a falsehood.

2.	something intended or serving to convey a false impression; imposture: His flashy car was a lie that deceived no one.

3.	an inaccurate or false statement.

4.	the charge or accusation of lying: He flung the lie back at his accusers.

Reason

• to hide the truth
• to prevent others from seeing you in a bad light
• to create a good impression of yourself

Consequence

• victim being cheated of feelings
• getting what you want.. but this would be temporary

To me, lies (for selfish reasons= which means doing it for your own good ) really uglifies you. (sorry for repeating this a 2nd time :p )

I have, and will always, believe in karma. Whatever you give out, it will come back to you... definitely.. No matter whether it's good or bad, you deserve it.

ignorance is bliss

I think they look so 幸福 in this photo :p


This was taken from a book that gives you more reasons to be paranoid. So... you don't really have to believe this paragraph.

Lies (for selfish reasons) uglify people.

mean = average?

In the context of this entry,
mean = offensive, selfish, or unaccommodating; nasty; malicious: a mean remark; He gets mean when he doesn't get his way.

I wonder why are some people mean to others.. and especially towards people they don't know. The only few reasons i can think of are:

• To get a kick out of it
  
• To hurt them
• To enforce their shoulds and shouldn'ts on others
• To show that they do not accept people who do things differently from them
  

love is...

Liking a person because you like the attributes that person possesses.. e.g. beautiful, handsome, hardworking, clever, rich, etc..

Versus

Liking a person because you have feelings for that person..

What's the difference between these 2 situations? I don't think there are. Because, i think the feelings you have for some other, most probably arose from those attributes. I don't really think it's possible that you'll like a person based on nothing at all. You could have seen that person performing a kind act or he could have done something that touched you, etc.. But, this means that once the attributes are gone, you will not like that person anymore.. So, when you say you like a person, it means that you like her/his attributes.

So, to me, loving a person, means liking the person no matter who/what she/he becomes.

random tip

Drinking at least 2 litres of water a day does help to clear your complexion. You should be able to see the effects after around 3 days. The effects will be even more obvious if you've always been drinking quite a liitle amount of water. It must be pure water ok.. no soft drinks or fruit juices or flavoured water.


I took this picture because the person in the picture amused me :p

what personality do your colours have?

Name: Guorong
Date: 10/5/2008
Colorgenics Number: 41237056

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You are constantly hoping that your good fellowship and attitude and your 'love for your fellow man (or women)' will give you peace of mind. You need people - people around you to care for you and to show you that they care. It is this hope that keeps you going, the hope that makes you the type of person that indeed you are. Your own need for approval seemingly makes you always ready to help others and in exchange you seek love, warmth and understanding. You will always listen to others and you are open to new ideas which hopefully will prove fruitful and interesting.

You are a leader and possibly at this tine in a position of authority, but you are experiencing problems. You are not quite sure how to handle the present situation.

Compromise is the name of the game at this time and it is the only way you can avoid being deprived of the love and affection you so rightly deserve -so soften up a little, be flexible.

Whatever has caused the situation, you just don't seem to be able to sustain or maintain relationships as you would wish to. What you really seek is to be able to develop a relationship with someone with whom you can truly share: Love, Serenity, Peace and Quiet. But you are a very demanding person and it is your nature that leads to disquiet and discord: you are like the tide, flotsam and jetsam... One minute you experience 'highs' and a few moments later 'lows'. This obviously will introduce discord into any relationship and with this demanding attitude - the ideal state you desire is unable to develop. Despite the urge to gratify your natural desires, you impose a considerable self-restraint on your instincts in the belief that this demonstrates your superiority and raises you above the common herd. You are extremely critical of everything that is presently going on around you and you find it difficult to listen to or to take advice from anyone. You enjoy the original, the ingenious and the subtle.

You feel that you need to move on. You feel that you are not appreciated or valued for what you are and that the time is 'now'. Failure to do so will not afford you the conditions to prove your worth.

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molivement

"Don't live for the moment. Live in the moment." --- Quoted by Huang Guorong.

Yes! I just googled this phrase and i can't find it anywhere else :p It first appeared on my Friendster when i came up with it 1 or 2 years back. I think we should live in every moment of our lives, experience fully every second. Not just live for the moment.. Not just living for that aim..

Don't just sit back and wait for things to happen. Start doing. But make and follow decisions that you won't regret. Learn from whatever results upon your act and don't make the same mistakes and/or do things better..

roughing it

Are soldiers today, considered a lot more pampered than those of yesterday? Life in the army is definitely a lot more easier. Treatment of the soldiers has changed as there's more attention on their safety and welfare. And more soldiers know how to make their lives more comfortable in the army. Some of them will bring bolsters, wet tissue, extra food, etc... I'm guilty of bringing a few such items :p I was just thinking, whether can we survive in a war where we don't have all these... :s