synergy

I went to Sentosa with mj today :o I was thinking of whether to spend the day alone... but i think having some company would be good... :p


mj trying to catch tiny fishes which were swimming near to the shore :p
We walked to the furthest end of Tanjung Beach. But there weren't many people at the beach today... We could use our fingers to count the total number of people who were there.


Our stuff which we placed on some newspapers because we didn't have a mat :p
Shadow pictures.











Think my tan rocks :p felt a bit sad because no one took any photos of me... .. . :p

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Even for couples, where the dream might be all trust, emotional security, a letting-go in love, oh, what fears! What doubts! " If i do this, what will he believe or say? If i undertake to do this, what will she think? I must do this or that; otherwise they will be sad, angry, disappointed, etc." So many behaviors are guided, not by the joy of loving but by the fear of no longer being loved, not out of the joy of giving but out of the fear of not receiving in return. I buy love. I buy belonging. It isn't a generous exchange of love in a spirit of abundance; it's more in the spirit of a subsistence economy.
Many live in relationships governed by projection and dependence:" I cannot live alone. If you go, i die; you die if i go. I lean on you; you are the father ( or mother) i didn't have. I am the child you need to smother with all the care you yourself did not receive. I expect you to protect me and reassure me eternally; you expect to be able to comfort me eternally. Together, we attempt to fill up our gaps and voids, insatiably."
It seems to me that very few people living as couples are truely in a person-to-person relationship, a relationship of responsibility, autonomy, and freedom where each party feels the strength and confidence to say," I am capable of living and finding joy without you, you are capable of living and finding joy without me. We, you and i, both have this strength and autonomy, and at the same time we love being together because it's even more joyful to share, to exchange, and be together. We don't strive to fill up the gaps, but to exchange plentitude!" Sometimes this state of being is called synergism - where the whole is greater than the sum of its parts.
Also evoked here are the "pearls" of wisdom from Gestalt co-founder Fritz Perls of Germany who wrote:

I do my thing and you do your thing.
I am not in this world to live up to your expectations.
And you are not in this world to live up to mine.
You are you, and i am i.
And if perchance we find each other,
It's beautiful.
If not, it can't be helped.

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Quoted from "Being Genuine - Stop Being Nice, Start Being Real"

toys

I took damn a lot of photos when i went to the comics and toys convention at Suntec today. The photos are arranged in chronological order.






I felt so unnatural posing for this picture :/


















My friend's friend gave this to my friend and my friend gave it to me. It's damn cool la.. :p Marshmellows that are packed like they're pads... :p I was thinking why would my friend pass it to me and i didn't believe it at first when he told me that it was just marshmellows, but then i saw the list of ingredients behind.

I might be going somewhere alone tommorow. Anyone wanna join me? :p haha... Just need a nice place where i can slack, read books and sun tan...

huh? what expectations? ... :p

It may be because that i don't want to be too disappointed that i've conditioned myself into expecting little from any situation, and so i think i shouldn't have any high expectations... I can't have any... and i think i won't have any.. My overall grades suck :/

? is this the place i want to go to?

sorry jr... :/

hy and me played a small joke on jr today, but it backfired. We were supposed to go for our dance lesson today and while we were about to reach, we msged jr that we're not going to go. When we reached, we were quite shocked to see that he wasn't in the studio then we tried calling him but he kept cancelling his calls and even offed it in the end. We were quite worried and we went around looking for him, tried to find him at the bus stop where there's buses leading back to his house... It was a super long walk :/ He still wasn't there. Then i wanted to go to his house to apologize to him.. but luckily, after trying to call him a few times... he switched on his handphone in the end...

At first we thought it was really a small joke, but we didn't expect it to turn out this way. Sometimes, the path we take, leads us to somewhere else instead of where we thought it would lead us...

love subject

While waiting for ck, Jonathan and me walked from city hall to clarke quay and back to city hall again :/ It's partly because we didn't know where to go for dinner.
Then we finally decided to go to (New York) *2 for dinner.

Thanks to them for the super belated dinner treat :p I don't know why but i was kinda happy because of their treat... Maybe it was because i'm kinda broke :p haha...
Thanks to jonathan for this poster too :o

I forgot where i heard this phrase from.. " You only love someone when you can't live without him/her, instead of being able to live with him/her." ... I forgot the actual sentence structure... :/ But it's something like this. I was wondering... what if someone is very independent? Does that mean he/she would not be able to find someone he/she love? ... But, i guess it doesn't necessarily mean this way... because love is subjective.. (#_#)