how a child learns

If a child lives with criticism, he learns to condemn.

If a child lives with hostility, she learns to fight.

If a child lives with ridicule, he learns to be shy.

If a child lives with shame, she learns to feel guilty.

If a child lives with tolerance, he learns to be patient.

If a child lives with encouragement, she learns confidence.

If a child lives with praise, he learns to appreciate.

If a child lives with fairness, she learns justice.

If a child lives with security, he learns to have faith.

If a child lives with approval, she learns to like herself.

If a child lives with acceptance and friendship, he learns to find love in the world.

(Dorothy Law Nolte)

- quoted from adrian's blog

It's never too late for us to learn all these... and it is actually quite easy to provide others with the above... for them to learn..

why do it?

There are a few reasons why we do the things we do.. and we do them because either

• we can
• or, we need to
• or, we want
• or, we feel like

There is no right or wrong in any of these reasons. Just go with the flow and go all the way and do it.. Just don't do it half-f***ed/half-heartedly :o

missing worry

A few photos from thursday :o





... gotta prepare to go out to help my mom buy 4d and go for my tuition session at 3 :s and i'm going to do waitoring again tonight... going to bring a few plastic bags just in case..... :p

you can come out now~

for the 4 of us, this is only one quarter of what we ate........... kidding!! :p

"If nothing happen on this bed, don't blame us"
... haha... think it's a nice advert..

If you have things to hide, you should be prepared that it will be out in the open some day. There is no point in getting angry/irritated/sad over anything being exposed.

summarized behavior

"You will, as a society, always be inhibited about that over which you are embarrassed; always be dysfunctional with behaviors which have been repressed, and always act out violently in protest of being made to feel shame about that over which you know in your heart you should never have felt shame at all."
-quoted...

give and ye shall receive~

"Everything you do, do out of sincerity, or the benefit of the action is lost. 'How can the mind add sincerity when it does not 'believe in' what the body is doing?' By taking out the selfish element of personal gain. Whatever you choose for yourself, give to another. If you choose to be happy, cause another to be happy. If you choose to be prosperous, cause another to prosper. If you choose more love in your life, cause another to have more love in theirs. Do this sincerely - not because you seek personal gain, but because you really want the other person to have that - and all the things you give away will come to you. The very act of your giving something away causes you to experience that you have it to give away. Since you cannot give to another something you do not have, your mind comes to a new conclusion, a New Thought, about you - namely, that you must have this, or you could not be giving it away." - quoted :o

back :o

"So long as you are still worried about what others think of you, you are owned by them.
Only when you require no approval from outside yourself can you own yourself.

It is not nearly so important how well a message is received as how well it is sent.

Fear and caution are two different things. Be cautious - be conscious - but do not be fearful. For fear only paralyzes, while consciousness mobilizes.


For love chooses naught for itself, but only seeks to make possible the choices of the beloved other.

What is 'best' depends on who you are, and who you seek to be. You cannot intelligently choose what is best for you until you intelligently decide who and what you are."
-Quoted from "Conversations with God - Book 3"

pestilence

I remember that... Most of the time, I'll get the impression from some friends that they think I'm weird, that they don't want to hang out with me because I'm not fun.. I think that it's just that I don't feel comfortable with them ba..

This should not... will not matter.. What matters is that I accept myself :o .. If I don't like myself like this, then I have to change... Actually, I've always thought that I'm not fun to be around with.. And this issue has always returned to plague me.. Maybe I'm always given the chance to do something to change how I feel towards this... .. It's difficult.. But it's not impossible :o

work work

I remembered what it means by a hard day's work after my waitoring stint yesterday... :s I don't feel good working in that environment, because of a few factors. I always take a lot of initiative in helping out and i don't expect others to behave in the same way. But after a few times of looking at the behavior of some staff over there, I just don't feel good. And it's not a matter of comparing who does more or who does less... Hmmm.. Nevermind... ... for the money :o

anyway..... another colleague said i looked one or two years younger than him :o ..... when he's only 21... :p haha... .... I thought he was around 26 or 27 years old.... :6

no payback expectations

I will do things because i feel like it.. Not because i want something back from external parties :o