expectant perceptions

HIT - discussing and working through questions with friends :o

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Everybody have expectations.. of themselves and of others. Since a long time ago, either subconsciously or consciously, most of us have been trying to meet the expectations of others, as we see them more important than our own. To some of us, it may be easier to try to perform to the expectations of others as they are... there. Most of us do not know what we want, so we do not form any clear expectations for ourselves.
As this goes on, some of us have gotten used to expecting our expectations of others to be realized. If they are not met, we will be disappointed in others. Maybe it is due to the fact that some of us do try hard to meet the expectations of others, while expecting others to do the same. Or it might just be due to the fact that we expect others to meet our expectations.
No matter whether we like to meet our own expectations, or we like to meet the expectations of others, take note that, we, ourselves would prefer to have our own freedom in making decisions. We would not like to be imposed with the ideas of others. No matter how good or appropriate the idea may seem to the other person, it is still up to us to make the decision to whether we would want to try the idea out.

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"The problem with most people now, is that we tend to find the easy way out to find ppl.. We just stereotype and classify them... Dun set up any barriers between you and potential friends just because of assumptions you make.. Get to know them first, then decide for yourself ba.. Dun be lazy and take the easy way out to figure ppl :o Dun do it just because other ppl are doing it.. Set your own standards :o you dun have to be like the others :o"


"What is important to you is how you feel.. Only you know everything about yourself.. You can't blame other ppl for having their own different opinions about you because they dunno everything that happened to you.. Even if they know, they have experienced different lives and they have their own perceptions towards the same things.. Everybody have different mindsets... And, you cannot control their thinking.. So there's also no point in trying to change them... If you wanna feel better, just accept that everyone thinks differently.. And just work on your own part.. Dun let other people's doubt influence you.. Nothing can affect you unless you allow it to affect you... You can be even stronger :o"

-quoted from me :o