When you're having negative feelings ( e.g. angry, sad, frustrated, etc...), it would be stupid to vent it out on yourself. And it is especially unfair to let your negative feelings spill over onto other innocent people. You have to calm down, take a few deep and slow breaths, and find out what is the deep down issue that's bugging you. Either you try to solve it, or you try to adjust your viewpoint and make it so insignificant that it will not affect you anymore.
Does the Invisible Hand theory work for relationships?
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I feel sad and angry.
I am stupid because I vent it within myself.
I don't vent the frustration over others, because I know they don't deserve it.
But how can I find a way to channel all these negative feelings away?
Because I am only human and I can't help but feel sad about things I cannot change nor slove.
If you simply ask me to adjust my viewpoint. Then I'll be a person who is step closer of being heartless.
- a very jaded someone who think you might have answers..
... I don't think i understand your idea of adjusting your viewpoint.. because to me, it doesn't necessarily mean that you have to be heartless...
hmmm... let me think of a one or two examples.. ... things that we cannot change or solve... :s it's a bit difficult... ok, a very very general example would be, that you've already tried very hard to better your relationship with someone, but your efforts are in futile.. for this, it means you just have to let go, it doesn't mean that you are heartless.. it's just that the time between you 2 is up...
for things that you can't change or solve, letting go is a way to stop yourself from creating any more negative energy.. in time, you'll be alright again... ..
sorry for this short answer :s there's a few angles in answering your qn, and it would better help me in trying to help you find a way, if i could know more about the problem you have...
hey wait... so you're sad that "monogamy" is not the norm now? .... You cannot change how others act and/or think.. (You would not like someone else to come and force you to change...) Don't succumb to peer pressure.. Just because you think that more and more people are not into monogamy, that does not mean that you have to join them. For this trend, i think, maybe, you should just accept it.. accept does not mean approve.. as in, you may accept that your friend is not a monogamist, but you can stlll, not approve of what he/she is doing... There is still a bunch of people who believes in monogamy.. so.. you're not alone...
I believe that you will still get to know others.. And you will definitely get to know at least a few that share the same ideas as you.. but in the first place, you must not be picky in choosing your friends.. otherwise, it may be possible that the friends that you always choose to know, all fall into that category of not-believing-in-monogamy...
About being alone... You don't have to worry about that for now.. Don't waste your years worrying and thinking about what might happen.. A lot of things can change along the way.. So, just live in the moment, do your best in whatever you do now, do things that you know you will not regret doing... Jia you :o
Yea. Sometimes I know I think too much. But every now and then, I will feel sad and get very consumed by it that I forgot about other things in life. Guess I need these reminders and some encouragement from others, to help keep me going. =/
Thanks.
-B
you're welcome :o
-G ... haha..
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