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buey ta han ah.............................................
- I like to use taking photos as a way to keep memories.
- I eat fancl tablets..... :s
- My camera is 2 years old.
- I am more scared of the cold than of the hot.
- I have a 2 Star kayaking cert.
- I still like tops with hoods... :p
- I am good to people whom I am comfortable with.
- In my room, I have a fan which cannot stop rotating as the......... stop-rotating mechanism is gone :s
- I prefer wearing bermudas to jeans.
- I am starting to have a hard time thinking of what to write.
- I do not have a driving license.
- I am only 167cm short... :s
- I have a few boxes and shelves of comics at home. (will soon be trying to find a way to dispose of them.. any suggestions, anyone?)
- I have a poster in my room. It is given to me by yuyi, who was born on the same day, same month, same year as me :o
- I just drank some water.
- I am super broke :s
- If the weather permits, I am going for a tan tommorow morning.
- I miss the tan that I had.... a long time ago... :/
- I just borrowed the fifth Harry Potter book from david. I think I didn't finish it the last time I was in contact with the book.
- I am a good procrastinator.
- I have weights at home... But I seldom use it now.
- I should be attempting my IPPT test on the 5th or 6th of January. I am aiming for a gold.... so that i can get the $400... :p .... to repay my bills.... :s
- At this moment, I am considering whether I should just lie on the floor to sleep.... because I am so tireddddd..... :/
- I have decided that I will go for a shower instead of lying on the floor to sleep.
- I like me. :) ...... :p
Tagged: david (he came up with this idea of a blogpost :/ )
"Matt: I can't help it!
Betty: What?
Matt: You're right. I am awful to you.. but, I can't stop myself because I can't stand seeing you happy when I'm in so much pain.. And, you.. you probably can't understand that because you are so.... good. You're not some spoiled rich kid who can't handle it when he doesn't gets his way. But apparently.. that's who I am..."
- oatmeal-with-chocolate-bits cereal with milk
- bun topped with sliced hot dogs and cheese
- porridge and cabbage dish
hope they will not make any trouble for my stomach later.... :s
- fly a kite
- spend the day at sentosa
- cycling at ecp in the early morning
- having a meal at changi airport
hmm... any more suggestions?
Key Points:
9) Reframe difficulties into strategic opportunities
10) Build an expectation of success through hard work
11) Relationships are critical in times of crisis
12) Balance working and living
13) Take your health habits seriously in difficult times
14) Find the power of purpose and serving others
15) Use your sense of humor to regain perspective
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9) Reframe difficulties into strategic opportunities
Optimists persevere even in the presence of obstacles and negative outcomes. They perceive failures as temporary setbacks, rather than final verdicts.
What you think when things go wrong, determines whether you give up or you get busy overcoming the problems.
Victors say to themselves: "I'm going to figure out how to become successful one way or another."
Victims say: "I'll never be able to succeed."
10) Build an expectation of success through hard work
Invest your worry time in constructive action. Hunt for the silver lining. A crisis can be a time to reinvent a business, cut costs that are not adding value and reinforce and strengthen customer ties.
11) Relationships are critical in times of crisis
Learn to accept support from others; you don't have to go through it alone.
The tragedy of life is that people you most want to spend time with have to schedule time to even see you. The people you least want to be with will find you wherever you are.
Spend time with other optimistic and resourceful friends.
Mark Twain said it well: "Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too, can become great."
The company you keep can take you up or bring you down. Pick your friends and associates wisely.
12) Balance working and living
Make time for your family. Research shows that time spent with supportive families, friends and faith communities can help people find strength and comfort.
People look at their priorities differently after a personal crisis.
Make dates and buy a few tickets. When you have paid for theater tickets or a sporting event, you will find a way to get everything done so that you can go no matter what work demands appear.
Be willing to give them up only when unexpected job or life demands require it.
13) Take your health habits seriously in difficult times
They will help you keep a positive attitude. Eat right, exercise, get plenty of sleep and include daily stress breaks in your day.
Maintaining your health habits can do wonders to help you sustain your optimism and manage your increased stress levels.
14) Find the power of purpose and serving others
Friedrich Nietzsche once said: "The one who has a why to live can bear with almost any how."
There is passion in being fully engaged in a meaningful mission and in doing your share of random acts of kindness.
You make a difference for yourself when you make a difference for others.
Faith, values and integrity are always in fashion. People of faith tend not to live in fear, but find peace in faith.
Core values help to direct your choices. They are both your anchor in the rough sea and the lighthouse that helps illuminate a positive and principled course in uncertain times. Honor is a gift you give yourself.
15) Use your sense of humor to regain perspective
Don't go through your life with your face in stationary mode.
Humor provides perspective that breaks the stress cycle and invites a more positive attitude. If you know that some day you will laugh at a problem, don't wait - laugh as quickly as you can!
Take your job and life seriously, but yourself lightly.
Never forget that some days you're the bug, and some days you're the windshield. That's a perspective worth remembering in these challenging times.
Finally, experience the power of gratitude. Unrealistic expectations are a sure road to disappointment. Optimists hope for more, but are not thrown by less.
Start counting your blessings instead of your problems.
Choose to be happy unless something happens to change that feeling. Instead of being unhappy, keep choosing to be happy until something makes you happy
End the day by identifying five things for which you are grateful. You will feel better immediately.
-The Straits Times, 24-12-2009
Key Points
- Appreciate the healing power of time
- Check fears against the facts
- Seize the day as a survivor
- Control what you can - position, perform and persist
- Move from analysis paralysis into action
- Master the strategic skills you need to prepare for the future
- Catch yourself being effective
- See mistakes as valued lessons
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These are changing and challenging times. Life is difficult and setbacks are common in the great game of business and in life.
Every person has a choice about the attitude he brings to his day and the action he takes.
Those who want to prosper must develop flexible optimism, resourcefulness and persistence in the face of adversity and constant change.
Unfortunately, far too many are falling victim to the depression of our age: learned helplessness.
They think: "Nothing I can do is going to make any difference in what happens to me, so why try?"
By controlling your attitudes and habits, you too can alter your life and influence people you live and work with.
Here are 15 practical tips to claim your own optimism advantage in bouncing back fro many setback or disaster:
1) Appreciate the healing power of time
One of Abraham Lincoln's favorite quotes was: "This too shall pass."
Because we tend to think that our reactions to bad events will never fade, we also tend to feel especially good when we recover from unexpected speed.
Don't underestimate your own powers of recuperation from emotional trauma.
You may not forget a bad experience but you can look back with a calmer perspective only time can provide.
2) Check fears against the facts
Optimism can be learned. Recognize that people often have catastrophic thoughts - feelings that everything is wrong and that nothing is going to change.
Think of these thoughts as if they are being said by some external enemy whose mission in life is to make you miserable. Then dispute those thoughts.
Try using cold, impersonal facts to maintain a reality-based perspective. For example, if you struggle with the fear of flying, you note that the National Safety Council reports that you are 37 times more likely to die, mile for mile, in a vehicle crash than on a commercial airline.
3) Seize the day as a survivor
As long as you are alive, you always have options.
Survivors make the best of the options they have while victims whine about how few they have.
There is never nothing you can do; the only question is whether a given action will work and if committed action is worth the investment of the time required to achieve the desired results. Survivors keep making choices one day at a time.
4) Control what you can - position, perform and persist
Security is not a fact; it is a feeling that you can control what you do. You don't control all events that happen, but you do control your response to events.
You don't control the cards that you are dealt in life, but you can learn how to play even a poor hand well.
Appreciate the words of Reinhold Niebuhr: "God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference."
Get busy changing what you can - starting with your own attitude.
5) Move from analysis paralysis into action
Cultivate a continual sense of adventure that searches for and takes advantage of every opportunity.
Failure to act doesn't prevent failure, it just turns life into a slow death.
As legendary baseball player Yogi Berra would say: "When you come to a fork in the road, take it."
6) Master the strategic skills you need to prepare for the future
The age of lifelong employment is over. You become an old dog when you stop doing new and improved tricks.
Invest 5 per cent of your time in education to stay a recyclable asset. If you hate your job, raise that to 10 per cent.
Search for what you enjoy and have the gifts to do. Bouncing back with optimism is easier when you have a job that gives you passion, fulfillment and energy.
7) Catch yourself being effective
You are probably tougher on yourself than on any other person. Instead of taking yourself for granted, love yourself the way you love others you care about.
Ask yourself daily, "What did I do today that made a difference?"
Use your calendar to write down one success everyday.
8) See mistakes as valued lessons
Use self-criticism as course correction feedback on the road to success. Identify what was done wrong, but put your focus on the future: What are you going to do to rectify the problem? How will you handle it next time?
Key phrases:
- they feel self righteous about their anger
- ventilating your anger is one of the worst ways to cool down - angry outbursts typically pump up the emotional brain's arousal, leaving people more angry, not less
- very often, anger is the result of ineffective communication
- we all respond according to our map of reality, not reality itself
- we just have to agree to disagree
If you are interested to read about the article, just continue...
Daniel Goleman, the author of the best selling, influential book, Emotional Intelligence, says that anger is the most seductive of the negative emotions. It is the "self-righteous inner monologue that propels it along, fills the mind with the most convincing arguments for venting rage. Unlike sadness, anger is energizing, even exhilarating".
That is probably why anger is one of the most intransigent [
adjective: refusing to agree or compromise; uncompromising; inflexible.
noun: a person who refuses to agree or compromise, as in politics.]
emotions. Ms Diane Tice, a psychologist at Case Western Reserve University, found anger to be the mood people are worst at controlling.
In fact, many don't even feel the need to control it; they feel self-righteous about their anger. Indeed, anger does have a positive side to it, as it can also motivate us to be proactive and take the necessary action to get out of certain undesirable situations.
Unfortunately, it is when people do not know how to manage their anger well, that they do harm, not only to others, but to their own health and happiness. Some keep their anger bottled up, thus giving rise to health problems like heart attacks, hypertension and strokes.
On the other hand, many believe that catharsis - giving vent to anger - is an effective way to handle anger. University of Alabama psychologist Dolf Zillmann, after a lengthy series of experiments, found this to be not necessarily true.
Ms Tice agrees and concludes that ventilating your anger is one of the worst ways to cool down - angry outbursts typically pump up the emotional brain's arousal, leaving people feeling more angry, not less.
When people take their rage out on the person who provoked it, the net effect prolongs the mood rather than end it. Far more effective, says Ms Tice, is to first cool down and then, in a more constructive or assertive manner, confront the person to settle the dispute.
Very often, anger is the result of ineffective communication. Perhaps the other person has misunderstood you or simply is not able to see your point of view. Or you could be the person who has misinterpreted the whole situation.
Learn to communicate persuasively so the other person not only understands your message, but also feels what you feel, and is persuaded to take action or move forward based on what you have put across.
One presuppostion from neuro-linguistic programming I have found very useful is : "We all respond according to our map of reality, not reality itself." Everybody has their own "map" for navigating the world, based on gender differences, personality types, environmental influences, upbringing, and individual life experiences.
So based on such a map, you may have felt insulted by someone else's comment, but to the other person, it may have been a totally harmless remark, based on his or her map.
Understanding and accepting this simple presupposition will indeed take the stress off ourselves. Not everyone will have the same opinion as us. As the saying goes: "We just have to agree to disagree."
There is a story about an old farmer who had suffered a lifetime of afflictions and injustices, but had kept his sense of humour. He was asked: "How have you managed to keep so happy and serene?" He answered: "It isn't hard. I've just learned to cooperate with the inevitable."
Don't let anger rob you of your own happiness and peace of mind. Learn to re-frame events in a more positive light. Tell yourself: "I'm in control. I choose not to be enraged." Deep breathing also helps. Only when you have calmed down are you better able to think things through and find the best way to resolve the conflict.
Remember, anger can only strip the music from life if you allow it to.
-From "The Straits Times" 21-12-2009
Since my grandma is kinda senile, and her wires tend to.... get plugged into the wrong holes quite frequently... is there an easy way to manipulate her mind she will create less inconvenience for the family? .... :s
I want Parkman's power.... :s
Do you feel good doing what you are doing? ... Do you like the results that your actions have brought upon you? ... If not, just do something different :o (at least for those things that are within your control... ) It's never too late..
When you don't want to hurt anybody, but yet you have to choose sides... it is okay to just choose one side. Hesitating to make a choice will kinda hurt both of them, and hurt you indirectly. Always remember to make the choice based on what you want, not based on how much the other person wants you to do it. (... if you wanna make your choice based on the other person, that's fine.. just remember not to be pressured into making a choice.)
It is soo easy to keep going downhill....
Problems that can be solved with money, aren't problems at all :o
..... right?
Is it wishful thinking to type out 10 pages of FYP in a day? .... I wish not...
Being sick sucks :s
okay... I enjoyed spending money without worrying too much about it. I think it's time to enjoy limiting my expenditure...... :s
I went to ECP yesterday.
I forgot who started the thing about "counter-clockwise". Someone mentioned it because it stands for positive moments... (it's a engineer joke.. you'll know it if you take structures as a module... :8 ).. thought it was kinda funny and witty though... :p
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I was watching a mother with a baby and another kid playing with each other on the train yesterday, when i suddenly wondered.. Have there been any cases of babies or kids being accidentally crushed by adults? (e.g. an adult accidentally falling down and sat on the baby.. etc..) ... :s
