I like the feeling of the initial warm sunlight hitting onto my skin... with a few big white clouds in the clear blue sky.. I like... and i want to give out such a feeling :o
" So now, as parents, spouses, and loved ones, seek not to make of your love a glue that binds, but rather a magnet that first attracts, then turns around and repels, lest those who are attracted begin to believe they must stick to you to survive. Nothing could be further from the truth. Nothing could be more damaging to another.
Let your love propel your beloveds into the world - and into the full experience of who they are. In this will you have truly loved.
Relationships fail-change- most often when they are entered into for reasons not wholly beneficial or conducive to their survival.
Yet the purpose of relationship is not to have another who might complete you; but to have another with whom you might share your completeness.
The problem is so basic, so simple, and yet so tragically misunderstood: your grandest dream, your highest idea, and your fondest hope has had to do with your beloved other rather than your beloved Self. The test of your relationships has had to do with how well the other lived up to your ideas, and how well you saw yourself living up to his or hers. Yet the only true test has to do with how well you live up to yours.
Let each person in relationship worry not about the other, but only, only, only about Self. This seems a stranger teaching, for you have been told that in the highest form of relationship, one worries only about the other. Yet I tell you this: your focus upon the other - is what causes relationships to fail.
If you cannot love your Self, you cannot love another. Many people make the mistake of seeking love of Self through love for another. The losing of Self in a relationship is what causes most of the bitterness in such couplings.
Two people join together in a partnership hoping that the whole will be greater than the sum of the parts, only to find that it's less. They feel less than when they were single. Less capable, less able, less exciting, less attractive, less joyful, less content.
This is because they are less. They've given up most of who they are in order to be - and to stay - in their relationship.
No one in right mind, least of all God, would tell you, when you are hurt in a relationship, to "stand aside from it, cause it to mean nothing." If you are now hurting, it is too late to cause it to mean nothing. Your task now is to decide what it does mean - and to demonstrate that. For in so doing, you choose and become Who You Seek to Be."
--- Quoted from the book :o
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