"Have you ever gotten angry because someone was unfriendly to you? Angry because you felt someone cheated you? Felt that you have been treated unfairly because you think someone had done something wrong to you?
There are some times when I’ve had these feelings but I’ve slowly thought it through. The reason that prompted me to do this, was about an incident that happened to my neighbor.
She was a very courteous and friendly housewife. There was a time when she lent some money to a friend she trusted a lot, but shortly after, the friend ran away. She couldn’t accept this and she was filled with intense hatred. She vented her anger by ranting loudly at her doorway, while clutching a bat and a chopper. After some time, she went mad.
It definitely isn’t because of the issue of friends or money that led to her downfall. Losing a friend who’s not trustworthy, or a few thousand dollars won’t affect her life. The reason that caused her to finally lose it, was because she couldn’t accept that she was being treated like that.
Normally, in our minds, we would have this set of rules of how everyone should behave. We would get angry if anyone behave otherwise. Actually, it is quite ridiculous that we are getting angry that others don’t give a bother about the rules we set in our minds.
Do you think they’ll learn their lessons if we never forgive them? On the surface,it's not good for them, but actually, we’re the ones who’s suffering. We’re so filled up with anger, our appetites suffer and we can’t have a proper sleep. While, they can still lead a normal life.
When you’re angry with someone, close your eyes. Try to feel what you’re feeling inside, and try to feel the change in you physically. You realize that, you won’t feel good to let that person know that you’re angry.
Anyway, it will not affect anyone whether you want to make that person guilty. He/She has the freedom to do the things he/she want.
A lot of things are not up to us. If a tornado were to move into the area where you’re planning to go for a vacation, would you not forgive the weather forever? If a bird were to poop on your head while you were walking on the street, would you be angry with the bird?
As we cannot control the weather or the bird, we shouldn’t be angry with them. It’s the same for others as we also cannot control them.
---my english translation :p of an article of "my paper"
