Legitimate Photo

There is a difference between people who take/post lots of selfies, and people who take/post photos of/with friends.

I am trying to consider the following reasons
1) people who take/post selfies
    a) only think that they are the best, and want to share themselves with the world, or
    b) are trying to get affirmations from others
    c) don't dare to ask others to take photos with them
    d) don't dare to ask others for permission to post the photos up
    e) Want to show themselves and others that they are present in the current reality. (存在感）
    f) for no reason :6


2) people who take/post/ photos with/of friends
    a) don't think they are important enough to take up just one photo for themselves
    b) to show/remind themselves or others they have friends, that they are popular
    c) to show/remind themselves or others that they are not alone
    d) for no reason :8

I guess all the above reasons are kinda legitimate, and there should be a lot more other reasons.

Connections

I do not have any friends who are working as chefs or personal assistants for rich people. Think it will be quite interesting to have cookouts with chef friends and to ask the personal assistants about their experiences with their employers.

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What kind of person do i envision myself to be? ...

1) I will be a genuine person (to the best of my abilities :8),
2) who accepts all people (will try my best :6) ,
3) who will still always be wowed by new experiences (does it mean that it will be good for me to spread out my new experiences?)...

...let me refer back to my blog profile for some reminders.. :6

okay okay..
4) to allow myself and people around me to feel better, if not good, about ourselves (in a healthy manner)

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Link about visualization:
http://www.spiritscienceandmetaphysics.com/jim-carrey-is-about-to-blow-your-mind-the-power-of-intention-and-visualization/

Jim Carrey:
Thought is one of the things that causes our suffering. (Totally agree.)
Who is aware of how we are thinking? (Only ourselves.)
I am the Universe. (woo yahh!!)

You can totally intend the life you want for yourself. :)

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Anything can happen, good or bad, But it is how you react and manage these things, that shape your reality, and in turn, shape the world you are in.

Just think of the infinite possibilities that you can do with your life if you were to make conscious choices all the time..

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I am thankful for all the people that I have around me now, and all the people I had around me. I have learnt so much things from them. I feel guilty of not getting in contact with a few of them.. :s

Here are most of them here..





 

 



 










 



 


 







.... hahah... just spent around an hour looking for these photos... so mannyyyyy... think there are many others too.. just that, these ppl are the ones that I have spent more moments with, during one period or another.. I miss everyone of them here. Think maybe I will send them a "good day" msg again.. haha... haven't done that in a few years..

Social affirmation

It is so easy to get affirmations for one's beliefs nowadays.. Number of likes,  Google searches,  friends' or strangers' posts..

So in the past, are there more people who are less confident in what they think because it was difficult for them to find like-minded people? Or are there more people who were more sure of what they know because there were lesser avenues of others' opinions?

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I wonder how do people from the older generations get their fix if they need attention? Maybe they don't care about such things because there were not many avenues for these sort of things.

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I bet these questions can be solved if I just Google or do research in the library..  :8

If anyone do bother to find out,  do share with me...  :8

Attention outlet

In a bid to get some attention and maybe to vent what I have to say, here I am again.. haha..

I just had this sudden realization that I have always been trying to clamp down on my attention needs. Maybe deep in my subconsciousness, I think it is wrong to ask or get attention freely from others. But, for a period after trying to prevent myself from asking for attention directly or indirectly, I will always feel that my mental state will get stuck in a lethargic state. It can be compared to being in the water where your movements are not as free.... I guess this is not a good thing?

http://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2014/jun/21/attention-factor-oliver-burkeman-this-column-change-your-life

After reading through the article, I agreed with the words in it. Especially this, "There is only one thing in the world worse than being talked about, and that is not being talked about." - Oscar Wilde.

I have always have this principle in my head. A person is worse off if you choose to ignore and feel unaffected by his words and actions. So, I have the same idea as Oscar Wilde.. :p

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Recently again, I think I had a misunderstanding with my friend. On hindsight, I was angry at the point that although no one had any bad intentions, bad feelings had to arise.

Why?? Why??

... :/

In general situations like this, have I ever initiated the rise of bad feelings? I wouldn't want to. But maybe I was a direct or indirect cause :s

What are the possible reasons?
- Personal agendas?
- Hurting of 'soft spots'?
- Insult?
- Verbal or mental abuse?

I will take note of these next time ba...

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I miss sharing all these thoughts that I have.. Feels so comfortable that I have just vented them out.. :)

Unbalanced scale

I need to rantttttt.

"I am a colleague.  I am not your student. I have always been respectful to you, so you don't have to be rude to me.... Urgh :8"

Separate clearly

If your personality doesn't allow you to perform well at your job, or at whichever role that you have picked up, you have to clearly separate your work life or role life from your personal life.

I do believe that some of us tend to mix in our personal feelings when we deal with work. It would be good if those are good feelings. If they aren't, we would have to resolve the problem or we would have to look at the problem from a different perspective. Separating work life from personal life, would be a way of looking at it from another perspective. You will just see it as work, and just do whatever that is required for you to perform well at it. ..... hmmm... Suddenly, this just seems robotic to me.. :8

.... maybe it is a bad idea.. Haha.. But it is a way. Anybody can try this to see whether it works for you... :p

Separating doesn't seem like a good idea... :8

Wet wet

The weather has been quite consistent for a while... It has been raining everyday.. :8 one good side to this cool/weather, is that the clouds formed during this period, tend to look quite cool too...... Get it? Cool cool? .... .... ... *tickle you to make you laugh*

I need a lot of pamperssss!!! My supplier doesn't have a lot of stock.... Or do I have to be the supplier? .. :8

Omg.. Next week is going to be a rushed one as it is going to be my last week at nie. A few assignments to hand up, two tests to study for.. I can do it as how I have done it everytime!! ... *self pep talk*

Expectations

I feel that my expectations of people had been higher than what they can deliver. and i think I have been avoiding these issues, rather than facing and accepting or changing it. It kinda resulted in my repressing of emotions. I wanna let it out but yet I don't want to hurt anyone.

To change or to sincerely accept? ... I will decide when I come across such situations again.. Haha

Much-needed post

I realized that I haven't been very active in deciding how I want my life to be recently.. Which is emphasized on my recent aura photo.. :8

Decided to start to be active again.. And how I am going to do that, is to be sincerely grateful for all that I have. Just want to point out a few examples...

1) being more responsible about my family (mom, bro and finances)

2) having my career planned out for me for the next couple of years (teaching)

3) having this consistent urge to be with someone, with all the "goods" and the "bads"

4) new friends for a new chance at friendships, old friends for staying

5) for a healthy body which allowed me to accomplish a lot of things

6) for the loads of passive rest that I had, while going with the flow on my life

Will sit down and reorganize my thoughts tmr :o

good day to you!

Happiness…. The more you want to aim for happiness, the more you won’t get it. I agree with what a book has said about happiness.. that it can only be stumbled upon. You only come upon it, when you least expect it. I also believe that it is a by-product, not as a result.

While for love.. it isn’t as elusive as happiness. I do believe that it is possible to love and be loved.. a lot easier if your standards are not relatively high.

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(Just some random thoughts at this moment) ..I miss having the chance to be jealous of someone’s action. I miss having that standard someone to look for when I am bored. I miss being able to freely express my affection without being misunderstood.

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Someone asked me last night as to how to achieve instant happiness or at least, how to achieve happiness quickly. I told him to follow his heart and do whatever the heart tells him to do. You will really feel more comfortable when you stop stopping yourself from doing what you want, just because of “common sense” and “logic”. When you feel more comfortable with yourself, I believe it opens more opportunities for yourself to be happy in the process…

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Someone told me that it makes him feel good to wish others a good day or to be given such greetings... said that his school's culture trained him to greet that to their teachers.. Think it's kinda cool and i like it too :o