rest rest

David's almost-gone-wrong nugget of wisdom: All squares are rectangles but not all rectangles are squares :o ( he mixed up the squares and rectangles at the start... :p )

I didn't know you could play pokemon on handphones.. saw someone playing it on his nokia handphone this morning...

"The actions of the body were meant to be reflections of a state of being, not attempts to attain a state of being.

In the true order of things one does not do something in order to be happy - one is happy and, hence, does something. One does not do some things in order to be compassionate, one is compassionate and , hence, acts in a certain way.

You have a right to your joy; children or no children; spouse or no spouse. Seek it! Find it! And you will have a joyful family, no matter how much money you make or don't make. And if they aren't joyful, and they get up and leave you, then release them with love to seek their joy.

If "man who supports his family, at all costs, even his own happiness" is Who You Are, then love your work, because it is facilitating your creation of a living statement of Self.

If "woman who works at job she hates in order to meet responsibilities as she sees them" is Who You Are, then love, love your job, for it totally supports your Self Image, your Self concept.

Everyone can love everything the moment they understand what they are doing, and why.

No one does anything he doesn't want to do."

---quoted from "Conversations with God- Book 1"

"So tell me again - Why does it take so much time for me to create the reality i choose?

For a number of reasons. Because you do not believe you can have what you choose. Because you do not know what to choose. Because you keep trying to figure out what's "best" for you. Because you want guarantees ahead of time that all your choices will be "good." And because you keep changing your mind!

Therefore, in moments of great decision, be out of your mind and do some soul searching instead. The soul understands what the mind cannot conceive.

If you spend your time trying to figure out what's "best" for you, your choices will be cautious, your decisions will take forever, and your journey will be launched on a sea of expectations.

If you are not careful, you will drown in your expectations.

The soul speaks to you in feelings. Listen to your feelings. Follow your feelings. Honour your feelings."

---quoted from "Conversations with God- Book 2"

I think i shall stop quoting from this few books for a while... I'm beginning to feel a bit uncomfortable whenever i take out my handphone to note down the words. :/

enough is enough

"In fact. the more important the matter, the less likely are you to listen to your own experience, and the more ready you seem to be to make someone else's ideas your own.

Thinking is hard. Making value judgments is difficult. It places you at pure creation, because there are so many times you'll have to decide. And so you'll have to choose. You'll have to make an arbitrary choice.

When you want to change a root thought, act in accordance with the new idea you have. But you must act quickly, or your mind will kill the idea before you know it. I mean that literally. The idea, the new truth, will be dead in you before you've had a chance to know it.
So act quickly when the opportunity arises, and, if you do this often enough, your mind will soon get the idea. It will be your new thought.

Your mind is right now filled with old thoughts. Not only old thoughts, but mostly someone else's old thoughts. It's important now, it's time now, to change your mind about some things. This is what evolution is all about.

The function of the soul is to indicate its desire, not impose it.
The function of the mind is to choose from its alternatives.
The function of the body is to act out that choice.
When body, mind, and soul create together, go harmony and in unity, God is made flesh. Then does the soul know itself in its own experience."
--- quoted again :o


There was this image that came into my mind suddenly while i was on the train, and i decided to msg dav about it. I kept smiling and laughed a bit for around 2 or 3 minutes.... :p

are you happy today?

If you are, by all means, keep doing what you want to do to stay where you are. Try not to be influenced by what others say or by other people's experience, because you don't know how you feel towards that thing until you have experienced it.
But... even after staying strong, if you feel somehow unsatisfied or unhappy with where you are now, this shows that you want to move on.. have to move on. If you find it difficult to change your thinking, just keep doing the thing that you think that the person you want to be, want to do. And your thinking will change, to the person you want to be. ... You just have to start doing something different if you want to be different. If not, you'll just keep staying at the same spot.

neutral day

"Expectations ruin relationships. Let's say that people tend to see in themselves what we see in them. The grander the vision, the grander their willingness to access and display the part of them we have shown them."
--- Quoted from book :o


I don't really know whether am i feeling down today or just neutral. Or maybe i'm feeling down because i'm feeling neutral and numb :s

ideal r/s

I feel that labels like bf, gf and date restrict the people involved and only allow them to do certain things and gives them pressure to fulfill the obligations that go with it. In my ideal r/s, one should want to be able to be herself/himself and the other should also want to be himself/herself, and they are happy like that... happy growing together... They know that they don't have to follow what other couples or most couples do, to be happy.. They will want to find out, together, what are the things that make them happy..






Another lunch at Sumo House... Saba fish set at $3.90 :o

"gd read" mail forwarded by susi :o

***************Convocation address by Adrian Tan at NTU 2008, Wee Kim Wee School of Communication and Information************

Life and How to Survive It

I must say thank you to the faculty and staff of the Wee Kim Wee School of Communication and Information for inviting me to give your convocation address. It's a wonderful honour and a privilege for me to speak here for ten minutes without fear of contradiction, defamation or retaliation. I say this as a Singaporean and more so as a husband.

My wife is a wonderful person and perfect in every way except one. She is the editor of a magazine. She corrects people for a living. She has honed her expert skills over a quarter of a century, mostly by practising at home during conversations between her and me.

On the other hand, I am a litigator. Essentially, I spend my day telling people how wrong they are. I make my living being disagreeable.

Nevertheless, there is perfect harmony in our matrimonial home. That is because when an editor and a litigator have an argument, the one who triumphs is always the wife.

And so I want to start by giving one piece of advice to the men: when you've already won her heart, you don't need to win every argument.

Marriage is considered one milestone of life. Some of you may already be married. Some of you may never be married. Some of you will be married. Some of you will enjoy the experience so much, you will be married many, many times. Good for you.

The next big milestone in your life is today: your graduation. The end of education. You're done learning.

You've probably been told the big lie that 'Learning is a lifelong process' and that therefore you will continue studying and taking masters' degrees and doctorates and professorships and so on. You know the sort of people who tell you that? Teachers. Don't you think there is some measure of conflict of interest? They are in the business of learning, after all. Where would they be without you? They need you to be repeat customers.

The good news is that they're wrong.

The bad news is that you don't need further education because your entire life is over. It is gone. That may come as a shock to some of you. You're in your teens or early twenties. People may tell you that you will live to be 70, 80,90 years old. That is your life expectancy.

I love that term: life expectancy. We all understand the term to mean the average life span of a group of people. But I'm here to talk about a bigger idea, which is what you expect from your life.

You may be very happy to know that Singapore is currently ranked as the country with the third highest life expectancy. We are behind Andorra and Japan, and tied with San Marino. It seems quite clear why people in those countries, and ours, live so long. We share one thing in common: our football teams are all hopeless. There's very little danger of any of our citizens having their pulses raised by watching us play in the World Cup. Spectators are more likely to be lulled into a gentle and restful nap.

Singaporeans have a life expectancy of 81.8 years. Singapore men live to an average of 79.21 years, while Singapore women live more than five years longer, probably to take into account the additional time they need to spend in the bathroom.

So here you are, in your twenties, thinking that you'll have another 40 years to go. Four decades in which to live long and prosper.

Bad news. Read the papers. There are people dropping dead when they're 50,40, 30 years old. Or quite possibly just after finishing their convocation. They would be very disappointed that they didn't meet their life expectancy.

I'm here to tell you this. Forget about your life expectancy.

After all, it's calculated based on an average. And you never, ever want to expect being average.

Revisit those expectations. You might be looking forward to working, falling in love, marrying, raising a family. You are told that, as graduates, you should expect to find a job paying so much, where your hours are so much, where your responsibilities are so much.

That is what is expected of you. And if you live up to it, it will be an awful waste.

If you expect that, you will be limiting yourself. You will be living your life according to boundaries set by average people. I have nothing against average people. But no one should aspire to be them. And you don't need years of education by the best minds in Singapore to prepare you to be average.

What you should prepare for is mess. Life's a mess. You are not entitled to expect anything from it. Life is not fair. Everything does not balance out in the end. Life happens, and you have no control over it. Good and bad things happen to you day by day, hour by hour, moment by moment. Your degree is a poor armour against fate.

Don't expect anything. Erase all life expectancies. Just live. Your life is over as of today. At this point in time, you have grown as tall as you will ever be, you are physically the fittest you will ever be in your entire life and you are probably looking the best that you will ever look. This is as good as it gets. It is all downhill from here. Or up. No one knows.

What does this mean for you? It is good that your life is over.

Since your life is over, you are free. Let me tell you the many wonderful things that you can do when you are free.

The most important is this: do not work.

Work is anything that you are compelled to do. By its very nature, it is undesirable.

Work kills. The Japanese have a term 'Karoshi', which means death from over work. That's the most dramatic form of how work can kill. But it can also kill you in more subtle ways. If you work, then day by day, bit by bit, your soul is chipped away, disintegrating until there's nothing left. A rock has been ground into sand and dust.

There's a common misconception that work is necessary. You will meet people working at miserable jobs. They tell you they are 'making a living'. No, they're not. They're dying, frittering away their fast-extinguishing lives doing things which are, at best, meaningless and, at worst, harmful.

People will tell you that work ennobles you, that work lends you a certain dignity. Work makes you free. The slogan 'Arbeit macht frei' was placed at the entrances to a number of Nazi concentration camps. Utter nonsense.

Do not waste the vast majority of your life doing something you hate so that you can spend the small remainder sliver of your life in modest comfort. You may never reach that end anyway.

Resist the temptation to get a job. Instead, play. Find something you enjoy doing. Do it. Over and over again. You will become good at it for two reasons: you like it, and you do it often. Soon, that will have value in itself.

I like arguing, and I love language. So, I became a litigator. I enjoy it and I would do it for free. If I didn't do that, I would've been in some other type of work that still involved writing fiction –probably a sports journalist.

So what should you do? You will find your own niche. I don't imagine you will need to look very hard. By this time in your life, you will have a very good idea of what you will want to do. In fact, I'll go further and say the ideal situation would be that you will not be able to stop yourself pursuing your passions. By this time you should know what your obsessions are. If you enjoy showing off your knowledge and feeling superior, you might become a teacher.

Find that pursuit that will energise you, consume you, become an obsession. Each day, you must rise with a restless enthusiasm. If you don't, you are working.

Most of you will end up in activities which involve communication. To those of you I have a second message: be wary of the truth. I'm not asking you to speak it, or write it, for there are times when it is dangerous or impossible to do those things. The truth has a great capacity to offend and injure, and you will find that the closer you are to someone, the more care you must take to disguise or even conceal the truth. Often, there is great virtue in being evasive, or equivocating. There is also great skill. Any child can blurt out the truth, without thought to the consequences. It takes great maturity to appreciate the value of silence.

In order to be wary of the truth, you must first know it. That requires great frankness to yourself. Never fool the person in the mirror.

I have told you that your life is over, that you should not work, and that you should avoid telling the truth. I now say this to you: be hated.

It's not as easy as it sounds. Do you know anyone who hates you? Yet every great figure who has contributed to the human race has been hated, not just by one person, but often by a great many. That hatred is so strong it has caused those great figures to be shunned, abused, murdered and in one famous instance, nailed to a cross.

One does not have to be evil to be hated. In fact, it's often the case that one is hated precisely because one is trying to do right by one's own convictions. It is far too easy to be liked, one merely has to be accommodating and hold no strong convictions. Then one will gravitate towards the centre and settle into the average. That cannot be your role. There are a great many bad people in the world, and if you are not offending them, you must be bad yourself. Popularity is a sure sign that you are doing something wrong.

The other side of the coin is this: fall in love.

I didn't say 'be loved'. That requires too much compromise. If one changes one's looks, personality and values, one can be loved by anyone.

Rather, I exhort you to love another human being. It may seem odd for me to tell you this. You may expect it to happen naturally, without deliberation. That is false. Modern society is anti-love. We've taken a microscope to everyone to bring out their flaws and shortcomings. It is far easier to find a reason not to love someone, than otherwise. Rejection requires only one reason. Love requires complete acceptance. It is hard work – the only kind of work that I find palatable.

Loving someone has great benefits. There is admiration, learning, attraction and something which, for the want of a better word, we call happiness. In loving someone, we become inspired to better ourselves in every way. We learn the truth worthlessness of material things. We celebrate being human. Loving is good for the soul.

Loving someone is therefore very important, and it is also important to choose the right person. Despite popular culture, love doesn't happen by chance, at first sight, across a crowded dance floor. It grows slowly, sinking roots first before branching and blossoming. It is not a silly weed, but a mighty tree that weathers every storm.

You will find, that when you have someone to love, that the face isless important than the brain, and the body is less important than the heart.

You will also find that it is no great tragedy if your love is not reciprocated. You are not doing it to be loved back. Its value is to inspire you.

Finally, you will find that there is no half-measure when it comes to loving someone. You either don't, or you do with every cell in your body, completely and utterly, without reservation or apology. It consumes you, and you are reborn, all the better for it.

Don't work. Avoid telling the truth. Be hated. Love someone.

You're going to have a busy life. Thank goodness there's no life expectancy.

late ddubin

A few photos from last sat's trip to ubin :o


haha! bleahh :p




sailor boy :o




I think my ah beng nature came out for a while today.. think anybody should watch out if they wanna mess with me :8




PUNTM!! haha... :p


Just because you like someone/something, you don't have to grab it very tightly just because you're afraid that it will go away if you loosen your grip... Just keep remembering the initial feeling you had when you first got in contact, and use that feeling to ground you, to remind you of the reason of why you like it at the start, when you didn't have any expectations for it...

trans-sunlight... :p haha..

I like the feeling of the initial warm sunlight hitting onto my skin... with a few big white clouds in the clear blue sky.. I like... and i want to give out such a feeling :o




" So now, as parents, spouses, and loved ones, seek not to make of your love a glue that binds, but rather a magnet that first attracts, then turns around and repels, lest those who are attracted begin to believe they must stick to you to survive. Nothing could be further from the truth. Nothing could be more damaging to another.
Let your love propel your beloveds into the world - and into the full experience of who they are. In this will you have truly loved.

Relationships fail-change- most often when they are entered into for reasons not wholly beneficial or conducive to their survival.

Yet the purpose of relationship is not to have another who might complete you; but to have another with whom you might share your completeness.

The problem is so basic, so simple, and yet so tragically misunderstood: your grandest dream, your highest idea, and your fondest hope has had to do with your beloved other rather than your beloved Self. The test of your relationships has had to do with how well the other lived up to your ideas, and how well you saw yourself living up to his or hers. Yet the only true test has to do with how well you live up to yours.

Let each person in relationship worry not about the other, but only, only, only about Self. This seems a stranger teaching, for you have been told that in the highest form of relationship, one worries only about the other. Yet I tell you this: your focus upon the other - is what causes relationships to fail.

If you cannot love your Self, you cannot love another. Many people make the mistake of seeking love of Self through love for another. The losing of Self in a relationship is what causes most of the bitterness in such couplings.


Two people join together in a partnership hoping that the whole will be greater than the sum of the parts, only to find that it's less. They feel less than when they were single. Less capable, less able, less exciting, less attractive, less joyful, less content.
This is because they are less. They've given up most of who they are in order to be - and to stay - in their relationship.

No one in right mind, least of all God, would tell you, when you are hurt in a relationship, to "stand aside from it, cause it to mean nothing." If you are now hurting, it is too late to cause it to mean nothing. Your task now is to decide what it does mean - and to demonstrate that. For in so doing, you choose and become Who You Seek to Be."
--- Quoted from the book :o



$2.90 Katsudon at AMK :o

two.... :p haha..

I'm a sucker for confident people.... :s So i will balance myself from now on...



Woo! You can use your ezlink card (old version) to pay for purchases at 7-eleven :o

十句

taken from andy's blog :o

第一句
如果我们之间有1000步的距离
你只要跨出第1步
我就会朝你的方向走其余的999步
　　
第二句
通常愿意留下来跟你争吵的人
才是真正爱你的人
　　
第三句
付出真心　才会得到真心
却也可能伤得彻底
保持距离　就能保护自己
却也注定永远寂寞
　　
第四句
有时候　不是对方不在乎你
而是你把对方看得太重
　　
第五句
朋友就是把你看透了　还能喜欢你的人
　　
第六句
就算是believe　中间也藏了一个lie
　　
第七句
真正的好朋友
并不是在一起就有聊不完的话题
而是在一起　就算不说话
也不会感到尴尬
　　
第八句
没有一百分的另一半
只有五十分的两个人
　　
第九句
为你的难过而快乐的　是敌人
为你的快乐而快乐的　是朋友
为你的难过而难过的
就是那些　该放进心里的人
　　
第十句
冷漠　有时候并不是无情
只是一种避免被伤害的工具

wtf

(SMS from a number which is not in my contacts)

anonymous: Why are you so handsome?"

me: Hello jo... :/ (i thought it was my friend playing a prank on me, because i sort of played the same joke on her the day before.)

anonymous: Who are you?

me: You just msged me... Maybe you got the wrong number... Have a gd day :o
(then i kinda assumed that the person was mj, because i sort of asked him and he didn't really give me an answer...)

(after 2 hrs)
anonymous: F*** u. U think its funny na bei u better watch out.
(what the f right? .. immediately i called up mj to ask, and we almost quarrelled.. but luckily we cleared the misunderstanding up immediately too..)

i was taken aback at the start... but after a while, i found it quite amusing. mj was also telling me that he will just laugh his balls off it he was me... ....haha.. :p

ubin cake

Due to the angle and my laziness, the cupcakes don't look great in the photo. But they are, and they taste nice too :o




I messaged a few friends this morning, sharing the point of "Nothing can be bad unless you let it be. Everything will be good if you want and believe it." One of them reminded me that.. in life, there are some incidents that are very difficult for the people involved to see the good out of the situation...
To everyone who is in this sort of situation: *hugs*




"Enlightenment is understanding that there is nowhere to go, nothing to do, and nobody you have to be except exactly who you're being right now.

What Enlightenment asks you to do is to know something you have not experienced and thus experience it. Knowing opens the door to experience - and you imagine it is the other way around.
Actually, you know a great deal more than you have experienced. You simply don't know that you know.
You know that there is a God, for instance. But you may not know that you know that. So you keep waiting around for the experience. And all the while you keep having it. Yet you are having it without knowing - which is like not having it at all.

You are in every moment deciding who and what you are. You decide this largely through the choices you make regarding who and what you feel passionate about."
--- Quoted from the book :o

grateful yet again... :p

I was reminded again that... the feeling of having someone who encourages you to do what you want to do, to be who you want to be, is super good! :) ... Thank you :o

judge 个屁

a friendly pack of coffee :o


I remember how it feels like to want to finish every bit of food..




slippers with jeans... everyday.... .... rocks :p



"The first thing to understand about the universe is that no condition is 'good' or 'bad'. It just is. So stop making value judgments.
The second thing to know is that all conditions are temporary. Nothing stays the same. nothing remains static. Which way a thing changes depends on you."
--- Quoted off the same book again :p

will

I will/ want to play frisbee within the next 2 months... ... with humans.. :p

I will/ want to go overseas, anywhere except for Malaysia or neighbouring islands, before I enter the working force. (because it's still very near to Singapore.)

I will/ want to enjoy love.




I will continue to know more, experience more, and be more.

only one is real

I am grateful toward the people at my worksite, especially towards charlie, ting ting, Mr Ng, Mr Seetoh and Mr Chia :o Because in one way or another, they guided me and allowed me to feel more comfortable over here.... I almost teared.. :p haha..

remember

blur-cock face :o


haha! he has the 赌王架势 la...


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:p I'm actually second to the man in the Guinness book of records.


woo! nice back :o ... :p and bag :o ......... :p


haha! i look super gay here la...


This scarf belonged to Muji.. It's not mine k... :/

Anyway.. I think i have to go out less... been spending more than i should... :/ But i don't regret how i spent my weekends because it was fun :)



To become more self assured, give yourself the chance to be with people who like you..

I want to remember that i can give strength to others, everybody, instead of avoiding negative people and thinking that i do not have the ability or that i am not needed to help positive people.