I feel like I have always been giving myself whatever I want, resulting in myself having lesser patience in waiting for the things I want.
I want to feel how it is like to wait for a long time for something that I want. Will it make me appreciate the thing more?
Time to not give myself what I want immediately?
I am sure this case has happened to most people..
When one of your friends asked a few common friends out, but didn't ask you along..
My first reaction just now, is that I was kinda hurt. Then I asked myself what I did, to deserve it.
But after that, I remembered that I did such things before :8
My reasons for asking specific friends and not all:
1) interest in that particular activity
2) easier to ask a few out
3) comfort level
4) easier to communicate
So I wanted to blog this out, so as to better help me choose how I should react to similar situations next time.
I will not choose to get as close to many people as possible so that I will be included in all activities.
I will be proactive in asking different people out.
I will remember the few reasons why I choose to ask a few ppl out, so as to accept why others do the same thing.
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Seeing the top part of my blog entry, makes me feel that I am childish. Why should I bother about this when I should be focusing on other things like my career, family? ...
Should i? ...
Is it like spending energy on worthless things like watching ants walking along the side, or counting the number of people entering a station?
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My top three permanent priorities in life:
1) Health
2) Self
3) Relationships
Have I been doing enough for these 3? ..
Nope..
Okay, let's set a target for these 3 priorities.
1) Health - apart from my daily 10 min workout, I will go for a run or play a sport twice a week.
2) Self - implement/learn something new each week for myself, to help me grow
3) Relationship - to meet or chat up with a different friend each week
When we do something wrong, shd we be punished?
Is it immoral to not be punished?
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When someone does something wrong to you, hurt you.. Would you want the person to be punished before forgiving that person?
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The other day, we had a conversation in school during contact time. The head was talking about the case of the teacher breaching the teacher-student boundary, where he did something with his female student.
My colleague was sharing with me his opinion on how harsh our employer seem to be, due to the focus of the conversation on how bad the teacher is, and how he should be punished. My colleague felt that more focus should be on the rehabilitation and the forgiving of the male teacher. He was also questioning the nature of our society now, about how unforgiving it seems to be.
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Do we really want punishment to befall on ourselves or others if we do something wrong?
Do we need punishment to right a wrong or to prevent the next wrong?
“开心就好” seems to be an overrated phrase nowadays, judging from how some people use it.
Examples:
- To allow oneself in indulging in short term pleasures and in turn, stop oneself from finishing one's work
- To allow oneself to rest and stop oneself from going for training as one is lazy and tired
- To break up with a partner as one feels tired and doesn't want to put in effort to work out the differences
- To totally ignore the advice from loved ones, as it seems difficult to reflect on one's actions
It just seems to me that some times, people just wants to be happy in the short term.
There is nothing wrong with it.
I guess I am affected as I would prefer myself to grow, to break out of my comfort zone, and sometimes I impose my beliefs on others.
There is nothing wrong with people wanting short term happiness all the time until they leave the world. It doesn't mean that they will be less happier than others. It also doesn't mean they cannot get what they want, out of their lives.
I will be disciplined and grow. I will not depend on others to influence me and remind me to achieve my long term happiness.
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I am ready the most when I was with you, but I guess I am not ready enough..
