Don’t be angry till the sun rise… :p

"Have you ever gotten angry because someone was unfriendly to you? Angry because you felt someone cheated you? Felt that you have been treated unfairly because you think someone had done something wrong to you?

There are some times when I’ve had these feelings but I’ve slowly thought it through. The reason that prompted me to do this, was about an incident that happened to my neighbor.

She was a very courteous and friendly housewife. There was a time when she lent some money to a friend she trusted a lot, but shortly after, the friend ran away. She couldn’t accept this and she was filled with intense hatred. She vented her anger by ranting loudly at her doorway, while clutching a bat and a chopper. After some time, she went mad.

If you don’t forgive, the one who’s suffering is yourself.

It definitely isn’t because of the issue of friends or money that led to her downfall. Losing a friend who’s not trustworthy, or a few thousand dollars won’t affect her life. The reason that caused her to finally lose it, was because she couldn’t accept that she was being treated like that.

Normally, in our minds, we would have this set of rules of how everyone should behave. We would get angry if anyone behave otherwise. Actually, it is quite ridiculous that we are getting angry that others don’t give a bother about the rules we set in our minds.

Do you think they’ll learn their lessons if we never forgive them? On the surface,it's not good for them, but actually, we’re the ones who’s suffering. We’re so filled up with anger, our appetites suffer and we can’t have a proper sleep. While, they can still lead a normal life.

When you’re angry with someone, close your eyes. Try to feel what you’re feeling inside, and try to feel the change in you physically. You realize that, you won’t feel good to let that person know that you’re angry.

Anyway, it will not affect anyone whether you want to make that person guilty. He/She has the freedom to do the things he/she want.

A lot of things are not up to us. If a tornado were to move into the area where you’re planning to go for a vacation, would you not forgive the weather forever? If a bird were to poop on your head while you were walking on the street, would you be angry with the bird?

As we cannot control the weather or the bird, we shouldn’t be angry with them. It’s the same for others as we also cannot control them.

Hatred doesn't have to exist in our lives, it's not necessary. The similarity between hatred and guilt is that they’re created by our ownselves. Anger could be a motivation, but too much of it isn’t good for our bodies, mentally and physically. We could only lead a normal life if we’re able to let go of our anger."

---my english translation :p of an article of "my paper"

how to be a good looker

I think we're most attractive when we're comfortable just being who we are :o

3 yrs difference

Difference between when i was 21, and now:

• younger looks then..
• tire more easily now after the same activities
• feel a lot more tired if i miss a day's sleep
• anything was possible for me then.. but i realized that i have my limits too
• believing everybody will be truthful to me if i'm the same to them... It's not true.. But i still believe that there's good in everyone. But good is subjective.. :s
• realize that people could take advantage/make use of others in more subtle ways now..
• i was who i wanted to be.. but i realize now that, the person who i really am, may not be who i want to be...
• i had less things on my mind, so i could concentrate on them..
  

The situation isn't as depressing as it seems. ... i think :/ I have more freedom now and i'm able to make almost every decision on my own. The only problem is that, i don't really think this is worth it :s

at least..

• super squeezy on the train - at least i'm able to get on the train
• super slow moving crowd along the pavement beside the road - at least we're moving..

• think i deserve a *pat on the back* for controlling my temper again :p when my student forgot what i taught her..
  

I saw something quite interesting today but i didn't dare to take any pictures in case i offend anyone. At 7pm, at this food court and KFC, i saw a lot of malays sitting around and chit chatting, with food in front of them. I guess they were just waiting for the time for break fast... Should have stayed to take pictures of them before they eat, and after they start eating :o

grateful

While i was showering, a thought came into my mind. "Things could be worse.." . I think i should really treasure what i have now.

• Having my mom, sis and brother nagging at me
• Being able to have a computer with internet access at home, to surf the internet
  
• My digital camera for taking photos
  
• My handphone for smsing and calling
  
• okay looking clothes to wear to school and to go out
  
• my facial products :p
  
• people who care about me
• listening to my songs on my mp3 player
  
• being able to study in university
• having my 5 senses to touch, see, hear, taste, smell
  
• only having to share my room with my brother
• having a sweater to wear when i'm cold
• for having enough food to eat
• friends who care about me
• my "beggar" bag which has been with me since year 1 of university :p
• for those funny, memorable, heartwarming, bad memories that everyone gave me
• for this blog through which i can express my thoughts

Anyway, these are not mine.. I only took photos of them for fun :o

wide smile

I don't know why would everybody choose today to pick on my closed-mouth smile... But here's some photos to prove that there are times when i would smile with my mouth open :o



haha :p

财金追击

How do i earn $40000 for the repayment of the school fees and loan in this 2 yrs before i graduate... :/ My sis is asking me to save money... again. We know that i can save up if i spend less and work more, but i can't imagine myself scrimping and saving whatever i can... hmmm... maybe i should try and see... For the working-more part, i think i shall start after my exams.. If anybody has any good lobangs (good job offers), please introduce them to me :o

tame temper

As usual, i was late in the morning as i was supposed to meet mj in school at 8, but i woke up at 8... :s Lucky for him and for me :p , that he knew that i'll not make it on time so he called me before he left his house. He called 5 times before i woke up :s Despite him having a fever of up to 38.9 degrees the previous day, he woke up even earlier than me and still decided to go ahead with the trip to the gym in school.


After meeting jr at vivo, we set off on our trip to tanjung beach for sun tanning :o ... Although the sky was covered with clouds, we did manage to get a bit.. a bit tanned.


After Sentosa, we went to Adam road to have the famous prawn noodles :o and went to Island Creamery at Serene Centre after that.

I'm not very sure what came over us, but we started cam-whoring after finishing our ice cream.





Too bad that the photo printer couldn't read my SD card... Otherwise, the above photo would have been stuck on the wall...

I'm a bit proud of myself today because i managed to control my temper at one point of time :o But i think i managed to compensate for that by losing my temper at some other times at others :/

funny thorn

There's this NYDC diner over at the fifth floor of Heerens which offers 20% of your total bill if you fill in a feedback form. I don't think this offer will last long, so you could go down asap if you want to enjoy this offer :o




Yesterday, i went to sabrina's birthday party and had super a lot of laughs :p



Thanks to PLS for agreeing to pose :o



Green was a very dai sai colour yesterday. We got the most forfeits = got drawn on the face for the most number of times :/



I must not get irritated when people don't see things the way i do.

i love kim san soon :o

"人生也不过如此吗?"

"没有体温的接触，心也就跟着走远"

--- quoted from " my name is san soon"

I've got to keep this in mind always.. that i should never forget to keep improving myself mentally, physically and personality-wise.. i've been quite stagnant for a long time... :/

random connection

Both mj and qy don't know why i'm taking photos of strangers, and of our tutorial teacher in class just now :p I... ..I couldn't really explain myself. But after some thinking, i felt that i just feel connected to that person at that point of time and i want to capture that moment. And i would try a few times, sometimes, so as to capture that moment with that feeling that i had at the start. I think it's the same with most of the pictures that i've taken... no matter whether it's a tree, a sunset, an ant, a plate of food, or someone. ... I do not have any weird fetish k.. :/

auntie

arghhh! i'm becoming more like an auntie! I wanted to buy, just one item at The Body Shop. But i got 2 other items because of discounts. And i also got a membership because i thought it was worth it. And because of what i bought, i received 2 free gifts... :p Actually, i was just calculating.. If i were to spend 16*$30= $480 within a year, i could get a total sum of product rebates worth $90. And if i were to buy products only when they have sales.... !!! I think i'm a certified auntie... (@_@)

Although i've been hitting the gym for a few weeks, i realised that i haven't took any pictures in it. So... here's some :o (Anyway, this gym looks very small and old because.... it is very small and old :p I like going to this one instead of the bigger and newer one at the SRC because less people frequent this place.)



I've always find it funny when there are other people carrying weights inside the gym, the reason being that I always carry the lightest one, which is 5 kg, while the others carry about 10-20 kg :p I want to tone my fats and build some muscles :o Because having more muscles, increase your rate of metabolism. It's true :o ... If anybody know of any super effective way of reducing abdominal fat, please tell me..

ugly people

1. People who jump the queue ( i just kena-ed one this morning :/ i think they could have at least asked, if they were in a rush. )
2. People who lie to cheat the feelings of others
   
3. Mean people
4. People who stand directly in front on the MRT train doors, waiting for it to open so that they can enter, despite that there are people waiting to exit.. :/
5. People who are super fake to others (e.g. pretending to be super friendly even though they don't like that person, etc..)
   

half full glass of water

I've finally gotten back my camera :o It's has been with my sister since friday. I kind of missed it...
And, earlier today, I was telling alvin that i realised that i've changed since i've gotten out of army. I used to see things in a very positive way (i think :p), but now, i like to whine and look on the negative side. When i was in the army, i would tell myself that, since most of the others can do it, i can also do it (in the physical aspect... e.g. running, SOC, etc.. ). But now, i would just tell myself that it's because we're different people.. Different people have different talents... Maybe it's because i'm comparing in terms of the mental aspect (e.g. studies, putting in effort to study, etc... )now...? I think this is just an excuse. Experiences and environmental factors have moulded me into who i am today, but i don't want to use this as an excuse. Time to change my spots again... :/

:p

control

Too much food and 'supper' dull my senses.. :/

mad haam

:/

Maybe it's because i'm too lazy and i have to put in a lot of effort to do it... i just don't like people who lie, to give others the impression they want..

... I just realized that what i said was a bit harsh, as everyone does this at some point of time.. even me... :/ ...

we are who we are

That head below spoiled the picture... :/


Some of us are always trying very hard to be who we want to be, thinking that is who we really are, who we should be... Actually, we don't have to try at all, because we're already being who we are..

soooo happy!!! :p

The reason i'm so happy is not because of the chilli pork ba gua that i bought from Lim Chee Guan...


It's also not because of the quite nice photo that i took of the scenery at AMK while i was on the train...


It's also not because of this photo of the night sky.


You should be able to see part of the reason now...



The reason should be clearer now...



Even clearer now...




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Lightning!! :p I was caught in this sudden super heavy downpour after giving tuition and i had to wait for my tuition kid to come down to pass me an umbrella. By then, the rain had subsided considerably, so i left my space behind the wall where i was hiding from the super strong winds and heavy rain. While walking along the pavement, i could notice that the frequency of the occurence of lightning was quite high, so i just whipped out my trusty camera and waited, while holding an umbrella and my shoebag :/ At first, i tried to guess the next moment that the lightning will occur but i was always wrong. Then i changed my method. I kept clicking the shoot button as i figured that i should at least get one good picture if i keep shooting. But i didn't get any pictures of lightning, except for a few pictures of the sky being lighted up by lightning that appeared in the other parts of the sky :s until the 70 plus pictures, when i finally caught a picture of one! :p Before it, i was wishing that someone up there could really be kind to me to let me take a picture of just one, then it would be enough. And a while later, i really got one :p Then i walked away...

But i decided to be greedy because there were still lightning appearing in the sky :p So i stopped at another place further up front, and started shooting. And i wished again... and after a while...

I got another one!! :)
waiting for around 20 mins+taking 90 plus photos+ 2 photos of lightning=worth it!! :p

Having an umbrella wouldn't be of any use at the start of this heavy downpour. The rain was being blown sideways by the strong winds.. I felt like walking in the heavy rain just now... think it would be quite exhilarating :p